We have, oh, let's say... "Dana" go on a date with Guy A. The date goes well; there's good interaction, chemistry, communication, the works. As the evening draws to a close, Guy A falls back on good ol' chivalry and offers to pay the check - or at least mentions that she can "just chip in a bit". Dana, who I shall not yet reveal as good or bad, sits back and smiles at her success and allows him to pay. Score. Another night of free drinks, no obligations to call him again, no strings attached. Sweet single life.
Guy A meanders home, somewhat realizing he's spending a bit too much this week on first dates with random girls, and better cut back. He talks to Guy B the next day at work, emphasizing that dating is making him broke. Guy B agrees, and anticipates a similar frustration with his own date coming up.
Guy B goes on a first date with "Rachel" that night. A nice time. They split a bottle of wine while seated in a romantic and cozy little Brooklyn spot, sharing good conversation. Guy B is hungry; Rachel says, "I already ate dinner, but get what you'd like." Guy B orders a cheese plate. To be polite only, Rachel takes a sliver. Perhaps less than a sliver. Guy B, as a guy should and is completely entitled to, inhales the rest of the platter because - hey let's be serious - guys need to eat.
But when the check comes around, Guy B thinks to himself, "damn - I am NOT offering to pay this whole bill." Rachel, of course wanting to help pay her share of the wine (but not his food), winds up putting down exactly half of the bill because Guy B never fell back on that aforementioned chivalry that Guy A displayed.
Am I dwelling on a minor detail? Perhaps. By now, you may have figured out which girl I see as good (Rachel) and bad (Dana). Unfortunately, Rachel gets the short end of the stick because girls like Dana plant seeds of doubt in the minds of men. Guys now think that most girls will use and abuse them.
The paying part doesn't even matter here. In truth, Rachel merely wants to HEAR the simple words, "I've got it." Then, of course, she'll chip in. Maybe next time she should eat more cheese.
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